5 Reasons You Will Always Be Broke

Being broke sucks. I’ve had extended periods in my life where I have been living on the edge of financial ruin, so I know how stressful and overwhelming it can be. When you’re broke and hating your job, things are much worse. It's hard to leave ANY job, regardless of how insanely miserable it is. This is the reason I still need to work at my loathsome job as a financial planner.


Over the last 9 years working in financial planning (and struggling with my own budget), I have seen some commonalities when it comes to people living beyond their means.

Struggling with a job you hate job is hard enough, but when you never seem to have enough money to pay the bills, let alone get ahead, things can be damn depressing. Financial stress is extremely difficult on you, your marriage, and your children. I am speaking from personal experience here.

Getting ahead financially is not especially difficult, even in the absence of a high paying job. It all comes down to your spending habits. It seems so simple; spend less than you earn. In reality though is much more difficult than that.

Our society has taught us how to be greedy, needy, over spenders. In fact, it's empowered us to be downright irresponsible. We want what we want and then we go buy it! If we don't have the money, we buy it anyway.

With this in mind, here are the top 5 reasons that you will always be broke:

Your Spouse Is Out Of Control.

I've seen this time and time again. A non-working wife decides that she needs to fill her empty day with spending their money on anything and everything that looks remotely interesting. Ok, this is a little extreme, but having a spouse that is out of touch with the family finances (and reality), is very difficult to manage. If both partners are not on the same page with the money, things can, and usually do, get very ugly.

You're In Denial.

Millions of people reside here. This is when you refuse to accept that you need to take a serious look at your financial picture. Doing so would mean you might actually have to stop spending and do without the things that your cool neighbor has. Who wants to do that?

You Are A Dreamer.

I worked for a multi-level marketing (MLM) company about 15 years ago and I was taught that if I followed their "proven system", I would become wealthy. Guess what, thousands of us bought into it. We spent like we didn't have a care in the world, hell, we we're going to be RICH in 5 years. As it turns out, it was not what we all thought it was and the company, along with our hopes of becoming a millionaire, went down the toilet.

Dreams are fine and long as long as the execution plan is injected with a sense of reality. Blindly following hype is a sure path to pain and agony.

You Have No Budget.

Budgeting is a word that strikes fear into our hearts and sends us running for the hills. Why? Because it's absolutely boring, limiting, humbling, and at times depressing. At work, I have no problem building Excel spreadsheets and PowerPoint Presentations all day - still, I hate doing a budget. Now imagine the regular person who has no financial background and doesn't even know what Microsoft Office is. Are they going to budget? I think not. Calculators and graph paper don't have a ton of appeal.

You Waste Too Much Money.

This is supremely obvious, but you would be surprised at how few people actually track their discretionary spending. In know, in your brain right now you're saying that the last point was 'budgeting'. I'm not talking about that here. I'm talking about tracking. People don't think about the coffee and bagel in the morning or the afternoon soda and candy bar they buy, but guess what? They will have spent around $1,700 in a year on this stuff. The $1,700 that could have taken your family on vacation.

Start tracking every dime you spend and you will see the difference! Once you've tracked, you can budget. Without tracking, you have no idea what needs to me eliminated or limited in the first place!

There are a number of other reasons why you could be broke, but these are the 5 most common I've seen. So what do we do?

How NOT To Be Broke

It is certainly possible to turn our finances around and actually start showing in the black, but it takes work, often A LOT of work.

Here are 5 ways to avoid being broke:

Talk With A Professional.

This IS NOT a solicitation to get your business or to endorse any service! Remember, I hate my job and don't really want to help you manage your money. However, I do recommend finding a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) that can help you implement a comprehensive financial plan. Let's face it, most people are clueless when it comes to money.

I have clients with $500k in cash that don't have any idea what a mutual fund is. It's not that they're stupid, they just never took the time to learn. On top of that, investing jargon is confusing and often intimidating.

Use Cash Only.

Say what!!! Too many people fall victim to thinking they can just use their credit card this one time and they will pay it off when the bill comes. That one purchase turns into two and then into $40,000 in Visa and MasterCard debt. If you think you're smarter than that and are going to use your debit card instead, I've got news for you - it doesn't work either. You will end up over spending and getting slammed with $35 overdrawn account fees (and those annoying letters telling you about it). Budget out your needs for the month and use cash only. Use the Envelope Method to control spending. It's cheesy, but it works.
Cut Your Expenses.

I'm not talking about canceling your power or living off of Ramen Noodles, I'm talking about things like limiting eating out, avoiding buying movie theater snacks (a $5 candy bar, really?), reducing your tv cable stations from 800 to 200, and generally avoiding buying anything on impulse. It can be done, it sucks big time, but it can be done.

Set Up Automatic Savings From Your Paycheck.

This is one of my favorites because we totally forget that we are saving. I, unfortunately, have never been a good saver. I am fantastic at spending, but not so great at putting money away. Once you figure out exactly how much money you have going out each month, take a portion of the excess and have it taken out of your check and put into some form of savings vehicle. Also, put it into something that is not readily liquid. You will be much more likely to take it out and piss it away if it's sitting in cash at your bank. Buy a CD with a early withdrawal penalty or a Mutual Fund which charges a fee if you sell it before a certain period. Perhaps that will deter spending. (note: Don't use those account types for emergency funds. You can't get penalized for needing money when the furnace breaks!)

Educate Yourself.

Many of the folks who struggle with their bills are not educated when it comes to finance. People tend to bury their heads in the sand when the topic comes up. You cannot afford to do that anymore. Go find a book on personal finance and spend some time reading and understanding it. You should at least know the basics. The more you understand about money, saving, investing, budgeting, etc., the more likely you are to take control of your finances. If you let it control you, you will always be broke.

The bottom line is that if you're living beyond your means, you MUST take control of the situation immediately. I have seen too many people lose everything because they just couldn't get it together.
Don't let that be you too.

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How to Face a Family Financial Crisis

An anonymous GRS reader submitted a question last week that hits close to home:

I have a family member that this past year has been in serious financial trouble. He is one of the most ambitious and intelligent people I know and I would have never imagined him getting in this kind of trouble. His ambition may have been his downfall as he keeps shooting for the stars and has fallen short on some of his business ideas, which may have put him in a more vulnerable position when the economy turned south.

He is now living in debt and struggling to put food on the table for his wife and four young boys. He has had to live on credit cards for several months and they are all maxed out. I have never seen first-hand anyone in this much trouble.

My question to you is, When faced with job loss and depleted savings, how can you avoid going into credit red? At what lengths would you go to to avoid living on credit cards and missing payments on just about everything? In the situation, is credit rating even worth anything?
As I say, this situation hits close to home. Last year, I wrote about my little brother, Tony. (I say “little brother”, but he’s 36 now.) Tony’s family got caught up in the mortgage mess, buying a home in Bend, Oregon at the height of the bubble — and before their home in Portland had sold. Six months earlier and things would have been fine. But things weren’t fine. They couldn’t sell either house. The market went to hell and they lost both homes to foreclosure.

Tony now faces circumstances similar to those described in the question above. He’s learning that there’s no easy solution to a family financial crisis. His father-in-law recommends “earning your way out of the problem”. That’s a fine theory, but not always practical. Tony and his wife work hard, but they’re only able to earn so much. I think that he — and people in similar situations — should also:

Cut spending to the bare minimum. This can be difficult. It can be tough to shift from normal spending to frugality, especially if you’re accustomed to middle-class luxuries and a middle-class lifestyle. But when facing a financial crisis, it’s imperative to reduce spending as much as possible and as soon as possible. You must stop the bleeding before you can treat the wound, before it can heal.

Consider drastic measures. Sometimes it’s not enough to stop the bleeding. To stretch the metaphor, sometimes you need to amputate. If you’re in a financial crisis, you may have to take drastic action, maybe even selling a car — or your home. Most people are unwilling to consider steps like these, which only leads them further into debt. These folks need to…

Be brutally honest. It’s easy to say, “I’m in trouble now, but it’s only for a month or two. I’ll keep doing things as normal by using my credit cards.” If you find yourself in a financial crisis, try to take an objective look at your situation. Get outside advice from friends and family. Be willing to listen to what they tell you. Sometimes others are better able than we are to see the slack in our budgets.

Avoid touching retirement savings. When faced with financial peril, it’s easy to look at the large sums sitting in your retirement accounts and think they’ll provide the life preserver you need. In nearly every instance, though, you’re merely postponing the pain. Your retirement savings are there to provide for you when you’re no longer able to provide for yourself. They’re not an emergency fund.
I’m sure that other Get Rich Slowly readers have family members in similar situations. Perhaps you’re even struggling yourself (or have done so in the past). Based on your experience, what advice can you offer other folks who are struggling in this economy? What can be done to avoid sinking deeper and deeper into debt?

And as an ancillary question, what can we do to help family members in need? What should we do? I’ve told Kris that if Tony and his family find themselves in danger of living on the street, we’ll make room for them in our house. But what about before that? At what point do I loan him money? (Or gift him money?) Or should I just be here to offer advice when he needs it?

Source: Get Rich Slowly